Connections Matter: Still Learning at the 200th Blog Post

This is my 200th blog post.

That number feels both impossible and deeply humbling.

As I write these words after several weeks of traveling from Charlotte to Maine, then to Orlando, and finally to Chicago, I cannot help but wonder what the person who wrote Blog Post Number One would think of the person writing Blog Post Number Two Hundred.

I imagine he would be surprised that the blog is still here.

He would marvel at watching three little girls grow into remarkable young women. He would be grateful for the unwavering love of an incredible wife who has stood beside him through seasons of joy, uncertainty, challenge, and hope. He would probably smile knowing that so much of life unfolded differently than he expected.

If I could sit across the table from that younger version of myself, I would not spend much time talking about titles, resumés, or accomplishments. I would encourage him to breathe more deeply, pray more often, trust his faith, and care for his nervous system as faithfully as he cares for everyone else. I would remind him that family always comes before work and that meaningful relationships will outlast recognition every single time.

Most of all, I would tell him to become more human-centered.

Two hundred blog posts later, I am still learning what that means.

My recent travels became an unexpected classroom.

Before heading to Orlando for the ISTE+ASCD Conference, Deb and I spent several peaceful days with family in Maine. Every morning, I found myself sitting quietly beside the lake, watching sunlight shimmer across the water. After a year filled with transition, those moments of stillness restored something within me. The lake reminded me that clarity often arrives when we finally become quiet enough to receive it.

Orlando continued the lesson.

One afternoon, I wandered into Park Ave CDs, a record store I had wanted to visit after doing some pre-trip research. A listening party for Madonna’s upcoming album filled the store with music, laughter, conversation, and people from every walk of life. I spent hours browsing records, discovering books, talking with strangers, and simply enjoying being present.

Before leaving, I thanked one of the employees for creating such a welcoming place.

The response has stayed with me ever since.

“We work to make this a safe space for everyone. We want everyone to belong.”

That simple sentence became one of the defining leadership lessons of my trip.

As the conference unfolded, I realized the moments that stayed with me had very little to do with keynote stages or crowded expo halls. They happened around dinner tables, over cups of coffee, during hallway conversations, and in those unplanned moments that never appear on a conference schedule.

One evening, I shared dinner with Matt Miller and Eric Nelson. Our conversation drifted toward teachers, leadership, AI, and one simple question that refuses to leave me: “How do we help teachers love teaching again?”

That conversation had very little to do with technology. It had everything to do with people.

Another morning, I shared coffee with Mandy Froehlich and Todd Whitaker. We laughed. We told stories. We talked about life more than the conference itself. Sometimes the best professional learning happens when nobody is trying to be professional.

I found myself reflecting in a crowded hallway with Chaunté Garrett and Craig Aarons-Martin about belonging in spaces like ISTE+ASCD. Conferences can be energizing, but they can also leave people wondering where they fit. Our conversation reminded me that belonging does not happen automatically. It happens because someone chooses to create space for another person.

During my virtual presentation on leadership in the age of AI, I found myself struggling with technology and timing. Right in the middle of it, Tamara Letter offered words of encouragement in the chat. It was a small gesture that made a tremendous difference. One voice reminding another person, “I’m with you,” can change everything.

Before my in-person presentation on #InstantPD, Natasha Nurse, Erik Francis, and Lindsey Cannon each offered encouragement in their own way. They reminded me that leadership is often quiet. Sometimes leadership is simply helping another person believe in themselves before they step into the room.

When it came time to facilitate my #InstantPD session, I found myself walking around the room before we even began. I wanted to greet people personally, thank them for coming, and learn their names. I cared less about how many people attended than I did about the people who had chosen to be there. Every educator deserved to know they mattered.

One of the greatest gifts of the conference came during an impromptu conversation with Angela Maiers. Sitting across from someone whose life’s work has centered on mattering felt less like meeting a renowned educator and more like sitting with someone who has spent years exploring many of the same questions that continue to shape my own journey. Our conversation reminded me that human centered leadership is not another initiative. It is a way of seeing people.

I experienced that same lesson while interviewing Jessica Garner. Somewhere along the way, our interview quietly transformed into a conversation. We explored artificial intelligence, differentiation, and learning, but what I remember most is the humanity that emerged when two people became curious together.

On the final day of the conference, I was wandering around looking for a place to rest. I ran into Greg Bagby and Cindy Gaston. After the warm words and welcoming, I asked what was on their respective turntables. That conversation became a communal sharing of music where we grooved, hummed, smiled, and connected to the beats being shared.

A few days later, Deb, my brother, my sister-in-law, and I visited the newly-opened Obama Presidential Center in Chicago.

Throughout the experience, one word kept appearing.

We.

It quietly echoed throughout the exhibits and invited every visitor to think beyond themselves. The recurring invitation to “Bring Change Home” reminded me that meaningful change begins in our families, our schools, our neighborhoods, and our communities. Lasting change has never belonged to one person. It grows wherever people choose to listen, encourage, and build something together.

As I reflected on Maine, Orlando, and Chicago, I realized they had all been teaching me the same lesson.

The lake.

The record store.

The dinner conversations.

The coffee.

The hallway encounters.

The encouraging text.

The shared laughter.

The presentation.

The interview.

The museum.

None of those moments were really about places.

They were about people.

After thousands of miles, countless conversations, and two hundred blog posts, I keep returning to the same simple truth:

People want to matter. People want to belong.

Connection is how we remind one another that we matter. Belonging is what makes us stay.

As I reflect on these travels and experiences, I remain grateful for YOU. Thanks for being sharing common ground with me and being such an essential part of the human journey.

Now and Then, There Is Hope

Now and Then, There Is Hope

Hope is something we all need. Whether we’re leading a school, guiding a team, or simply navigating the ups and downs of daily life, hope serves as our compass. It’s the whisper that reminds us we’re on the right path, that our vision matters, and that our efforts have the potential to create something meaningful.

But let’s be real—there are days when the compass feels broken. Days when we question our choices, when doubt creeps in, and Imposter Syndrome casts a shadow over our accomplishments. I’ve been there. We all have. And in those moments, I’ve learned that it’s the small, unexpected flashes of hope that keep us going: the spontaneous smile from a student as I walk down the hallway, the moment a teacher’s lesson hits its stride, or even a kind text from a loved one reminding me I’m not alone in this work.

Sometimes, hope arrives in the form of a song. As many of you know, I’m an unabashed Beatles fan. From The Pepper Effect to #ThePepperEffect, to countless references in talks, blog posts, and podcasts, The Beatles are my creative wellspring. My book, The Pepper Effect, explores the lessons of collaboration, creativity, and leadership that can be drawn from The Beatles’ groundbreaking Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can check it out here.

Last year, I had the privilege of writing a piece for Culture Sonar about Now and Then, the “last” Beatles song. The story behind this song resonates deeply with me as a testament to the power of hope. You can read that full piece here.

The story of Now and Then is itself a lesson in hope and perseverance. John Lennon recorded a rough demo at his piano in 1977. When the surviving Beatles—Paul McCartney, George Harrison, and Ringo Starr—tried to finish it in the mid-90s, the project hit a wall. The synergy wasn’t there, and the technical limitations made it impossible to isolate John’s vocal clearly. The song was shelved, unfinished, but Paul never let it go. He believed there was something special in John’s demo—a spark waiting to ignite.

Decades later, in 2022, Paul and Ringo revisited Now and Then. With the help of advances in AI and the brilliant production skills of Giles Martin (son of George Martin, The Beatles’ original producer), they were able to clean up John’s vocal and add new musical elements. In 2023, the song was released, and for me, it felt like the world was witnessing a small miracle—a moment when something lost was found again. It was a triumph of hope, a testament to the belief that the impossible can become possible.

Earlier this week, I heard the news: Now and Then has been nominated for a Grammy Award for Record of the Year. It’s a powerful reminder that music—like hope—has the power to change the world. This song, born from a rough demo and sustained by Paul McCartney’s unwavering belief, is a symbol of what can happen when we refuse to give up on something that matters. It’s a lesson for all of us as leaders: sometimes, our vision won’t be embraced right away. There will be times when our ideas are met with polite nods or silence. But that doesn’t mean the idea isn’t worth pursuing. It just means we need to persevere and trust in the process.

Hope isn’t just a feeling; it’s a leadership move. It’s the quiet persistence to revisit ideas, to keep communicating, to invite others to collaborate and play together in the sandbox of possibility. I think about my latest initiative at school—the Principal Read Aloud. As a new leader, I wanted to find a way to connect with our students and teachers, to build trust and community. I proposed giving teachers a 30-minute break while I read aloud to their classes. It’s a simple idea, but it’s grounded in hope and the desire to show our school community that I’m here for them.

So far, only two teachers have signed up, and that’s okay. I’m hanging in there, just like Paul McCartney did with Now and Then. I believe in this small act of connection, and I’m willing to wait for it to grow, one read-aloud session at a time. Because that’s what hope looks like—it’s the willingness to keep showing up, to keep believing in the possibility of something beautiful taking shape.

As leaders, we have to hold onto hope like a North Star. It’s our guiding light, helping us navigate through challenges and inspiring others to do the same. Whether it’s in our school hallways, our team meetings, or even in the quiet moments of reflection, we have to keep hope in the foreground. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

And as The Beatles remind us in their final song, hope is the thread that ties the past, present, and future together. Now and then, there is hope. It’s what brings us back, time and time again, to believe in the magic of possibility and the power of collaboration.

Let’s keep hope alive in our leadership moves. Let’s embrace the small moments that spark joy and connection. Let’s take the time to revisit old ideas, to share our vision with others, and to trust that, in the end, something beautiful will emerge.

Tune in to Hope:

  • Embrace Small Acts of Connection: Like my Principal Read Aloud, find simple ways to show your heart and commitment to your school community.
  • Persevere with Your Ideas: Even if your vision isn’t immediately accepted, keep refining and revisiting it. Trust that it has the potential to resonate with others over time.
  • Invite Others to Collaborate: Hope grows when we invite others to join us on the journey. Create space for shared ownership and creative contributions.

The journey of Now and Then is a reminder that we’re all part of something bigger. When we lead with hope, we open the door for new possibilities to enter, and that’s when the real magic happens.

Listen to Now and Then by The Beatles here.

#NowAndThen #LeadershipRiffs #TuneIntoHope


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Embracing the Disruption: Leadership Reflections for Change in the AI Era

They Aren’t U2 Anymore…

In 1991, U2 released their pivotal album, “Achtung Baby.” As a senior in college, I recall the initial shock of hearing that U2 had made a dance album. As a rock purist, this was hard to accept. I scoffed at dance music and felt U2 was undermining the legacy they had built with their quintessential album, “The Joshua Tree.” I vividly remember seeing early pictures of U2’s new look—Bono in oversized sunglasses and The Edge sporting a neon-colored bandana. This wasn’t the U2 of “The Joshua Tree,” with their ten-gallon hats and denim. Where had my U2 gone?

When I first heard the single “The Fly,” I didn’t get it. It didn’t sound like U2. But as I listened to the rest of the album, I began to understand their new direction. “Achtung Baby” is an excellent groundbreaking album depicting a band willing to disrupt their trajectory and do something fresh.

Blackberries Falling

When I was first named an administrator, one thing I eagerly anticipated was getting my very own Blackberry. I had long admired other administrators who brandished their Blackberries with the cool ease of a Jedi wielding a lightsaber. When it was finally issued to me at central office, I felt like I had fully become an assistant principal. I even thought there should have been an induction ceremony as I received my Blackberry. Little did I know, Blackberries don’t make leaders.

I was overly consumed with the status I believed the Blackberry afforded me. When Steve Jobs unveiled the iPhone, I scoffed at it. I thought it was useless and would flop against the Blackberry’s dominance. Clearly, I was proven wrong as the iPhone eclipsed the Blackberry universe. Once I experienced the capabilities of the iPhone, I quickly abandoned my Blackberry and haven’t looked back since.

For those reading, you may feel some nostalgia about the rise of the Blackberry phone. Others may have no idea what it is due to the ubiquity of the iPhone. Some may be hanging on to a cherished Android. Regardless, will we be cradling any of these devices within the next 5-10 years? What will be the next disruption that we are challenged to embrace?

Reflection Moves

In the wake of the recent ISTE Conference, I’m sure Artificial Intelligence was on everyone’s lips. Even though I wasn’t at the conference this time, I am certain AI was a hot topic. A new age has arrived, and we are in the midst of an exciting shift with the advent of AI. Perhaps five years ago at an ed tech conference, AI may have only been a topic for a handful of folks.

As we undergo this seismic shift in technology, it is vital for school leaders to have a firm vision balanced between the past, present, and future. Having a 360-degree view of current and future trends is not always easy for leaders. There are many demands on the plate for school leaders—observation schedules, school safety issues, paperwork, impromptu conferences. It goes with the gig. However, to equip our students and teachers for the challenges and opportunities surrounding any new dawn in education, it is crucial to nurture our leadership core with all things reflection.

AI is here to stay. It may fade away like U2’s denims and Blackberry’s ephemeral grasp, but its impact on education is undeniable. According to a 2022 McKinsey report on AI, more than 50% of companies in the US had at least one AI functionality embedded in their framework. That was two years ago, and I would bet that number has significantly increased. The impact of AI on education is something school leaders must understand. Taking time to reflect, read, and connect with other school leaders is essential for supporting teachers in integrating AI into the schoolhouse.

Reflection requires intentionality, space, and a plan. Within the PLN, many school leaders share their journey of adapting AI into their framework, and many states are creating structures and policies to align the use of AI proactively and meaningfully. AI is with us and is disrupting the landscape in many ways. Rather than avoid the disruption, we have an opportunity to embrace it. As the great Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius writes, “Willing acceptance—now at this very moment—of all external events. That’s all you need.” Ryan Holiday, who has written extensively about the Stoics, sums up this mindset to embrace setbacks in the title of his compelling book, The Obstacle Is The Way. AI and all of its techno baggage and rapid changes may seem like an obstacle, but it is a pathway for us to walk upon and embrace together. School leaders, we have an opportunity to inspire and support the people we serve to embrace disruption collectively and ignite new paths for building authentic, student-centered communities.

With this embrace of disruption, it is necessary for school leaders to take the time to reflect in a real and visceral way. Reflection is the ignition for inspiring action. As leaders, inspiring action and supporting others is the gig. The more we embrace disruption and support others in that realm, the easier it is to tackle any level of change in an organization. Reflection must also include the people you serve and empowering them as they navigate the challenges of change and disruptions. We must meet folks where they are and develop a supportive stamina to guide them. Reflection benefits leaders in this way as well.

Disruption can be messy and overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. AI, in my opinion, is not a monolith looming sinisterly over people. There is much to learn from it, and the disruption it brings is not an impossible obstacle course but rather an opportunity for school leaders to compel others to embrace the disruption and traverse the challenges together. When those challenges are encountered together, it is an opportunity for the strengths and gifts of others to overcome and harmonize any challenging situation into a solution that is human-centered that fosters a sense of belonging for everyone.

Embracing the disruption is an essential move for leaders to take to help remove barriers, face changes, and compel dynamic action.

Resources

There are many resources available to help compel reflection and ignite connection. Swivl has developed Mirror, an AI classroom tool that serves as a conduit for reflection. Recently, they unveiled the app version of it, known as MirrorTalk. I used MirrorTalk as a tool for reflection in forming my thoughts and ideas for this post. It was very helpful and deepened my reflection to further insights. Monica Burns, an Ed Tech Consultant, Author, and Expert, provides a helpful set of resources for educators to integrate tools into the schoolhouse. Her dynamic Class Tech Tips website is a solid entry point for curated resources ranging from her email newsletter to the “Easy Tech” podcast. Stacy Roshan, my good friend and past guest on my podcast, #PrincipalLinerNotes, is a sincere and reflective ed tech influencer. Her book, Tech With Heart: Leveraging Technology to Empower Student Voice, Ease Anxiety, & Create Compassionate Classrooms, is a deep journey on balancing humanity and technology in the classroom. Stacy’s blog site, “techieMusings,” is just that—filled with helpful entry points on various ed tech tools and resources. All of these resources are momentum-filled for school leaders to reflect and embrace disruption.

Next Moves for School Leaders:

  1. Schedule Daily Reflection Time: Dedicate 15 minutes each day to reflect on your experiences, challenges, and successes. Use this time to jot down thoughts, ideas, and observations in a journal or digital note.
  2. Engage in Peer Conversations: Connect with fellow school leaders regularly to discuss the impact of AI and other technological advancements. Share insights, strategies, and support each other in navigating the changing landscape. Bring it into the conversation and invite others to share.
  3. Stay Informed and Educated: Commit to continuous learning about AI and its implications for education. Attend webinars, read relevant articles, and participate in professional development opportunities to stay ahead of the curve and lead effectively. Both ISTE and FETC provide edifying and compelling webinars to expand one’s learning and professional learning network.