Lauren Kaufman

When Authenticity Is Enough: Leading With Truth & Soul

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A couple of weeks ago, I had another health scare. My blood pressure spiked, and I ended up in the hospital. I am better now, but those hours of quiet reflection reminded me of something I can’t overlook anymore. I had lost my balance, and it caught up with me.

What surfaced most clearly in that hospital room was this truth: I have to lead as my authentic self. Every time I have tried to wear the mask of someone else’s idea of leadership, I’ve paid the price. The expectations, the performances, the comparisons; none of it leads to joy. Authenticity does. The words of my dear father resonated in my mind as I was facing my internal valley of doubts, “Hold your head high, like I taught you.” My father is my icon for what it means to be an authentic leader. He sees the best in others, guides his moves with faith, and motivates others to get off the proverbial bench because as he says, “Everyone plays. Everyone is a starter. Let’s dare to be great!”

Autenticity is the pathway to joy and the ignition us to be our very best selves for others.

And I am reminded daily that joy comes in the smallest of places. The other morning, I was standing in the cafeteria line talking with kids over breakfast. One challenged me to a game of rock paper scissors. In that small moment of laughter and connection, I found energy again. These little moments are not little. They are everything.

That’s why Bruce Springsteen’s Nebraska has been on my turntable again. A stripped-down, raw, uncompromising record. Just voice, guitar, and truth. The industry didn’t expect it, but Springsteen didn’t compromise. He stayed true to the vision he knew he had to share. And now, with the upcoming film based on the creation of Nebraska, Deliver Me From Nowhere on the horizon, it feels validating to see that choice recognized for the powerful act it was.

Every leader has their own version of Nebraska, a stripped-down truth that others may ignore, dismiss, or even resist. The challenge is to hold on to it, to trust it, and to keep leading from it. Authentic leadership rarely comes with applause or bright lights. It is often quiet work, anchored in conviction and presence. It is about refusing to dilute your vision simply because it doesn’t match someone else’s script.

We see examples of this courage throughout history. Rosa Parks chose quiet defiance over spectacle, and her authenticity shifted the course of a nation. Nelson Mandela held to his convictions through decades of imprisonment and emerged stronger, not broken. I think of the times in my leadership where my authenticity help to guide me to embrace the impossible even when naysayers attempted to dispel what I could bring to the table.

Even in our time, I see inspiring friends like Lauren Kaufman and Meghan Lawson modeling this kind of authentic leadership in their blogs. Their writing resonates because it comes from a place of truth, not performance. Their voices remind me that leadership grounded in honesty has the power to connect, inspire, and endure.

Your Nebraska may not look like anyone else’s. It may not be understood at first. It may even be pushed aside. But if you stay with it, if you let your truth guide your steps, it can become the defining force of your leadership. And in the end, authenticity is not only enough, it is everything.

Four Takeaways for Leaders

  1. Authenticity sustains: Don’t chase someone else’s version of leadership. Stay rooted in who you are.
  2. Small moments matter: A quick conversation or shared laugh can carry more impact than a staged performance.
  3. Comparison drains, presence restores: Shift your focus from how you measure up to where you are needed most.
  4. Find your Nebraska: Hold on to your stripped-down truth, even when it’s overlooked. That is where your real strength lives.

I am honored to be part of the Courageous Leadership Panel, a free webinar sponsored by K + E Innovation with Lauren Kaufman, Meghan Lawson, and Dave Burgess on September 16, 2025 at 7:00 p.m. Eastern. RSVP for this dynamic conversation here: https://lnkd.in/g6SswcTm

The In-Between Moments: Finding the Groove of Connection at ISTE + ASCD

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I’m dancing.

The groove is on the move in San Antonio, and Marvin Gaye’s “Got To Give It Up” is pulling me into the aisle at the end of an unforgettable MainStage experience at the ISTE + ASCD Conference. DJ Catwalk is spinning the exit music. The room is clearing out after being inspired by the beautiful voices and stories of Sabba Quidwai, Scott Shigeoka, and Jason Reynolds. And there I am—dancing alone. No choreography. No cool moves. Just me, caught in the joy of the moment.

This was one of those in-between moments—the kind you don’t plan for but end up meaning the most. The kind that happens off-script, off-schedule, and sometimes even offbeat. It’s like a classroom teachable moment or when a band falls into an unexpected groove and something beautiful just… happens.

I hadn’t been to ISTE in six years. I had never been to an ASCD event. I have been a member of both organizations for years. But this first combined experience didn’t feel like two worlds crashing together—it felt like home. It reminded me of The Brady Bunch hitting its stride: unless you were paying attention to the lyrics or the first season, you forgot it was a blended family. It was seamless, like when the Brady kids became a singing group and belted out “It’s A Sunshine Day.”

There were many moments that filled my heart.

I was honored to be named an ISTE-ASCD 20 to Watch Award recipient. (Grateful for to meet Lauren Richardson!) It was humbling beyond words. I was also privileged to co-present with my friend and thought-partner, Dr. Andrea Trudeau, on the partnership between principals and librarians—a project that has grown from our year-long ISTE-ASCD Expert Webinar Series. That presentation was special, no doubt.

But the moments in between—those moments between sessions, in the aisles, on bookstore strolls, and even in hurried walks through the Expo Hall—are the ones that have stayed with me. Like meeting finally, Jacie Maslyk, an amazing author and expert on STEM and Literacy, was akin to meeting a member of The Beatles. Or even meeting Jen Rafferty, an inspiring voice and friend in my PLN, was so meaningful.

I had the joy of finally meeting my longtime friend and collaborator, Meghan Lawson, in person. Walking the bookstore with her, sharing sessions, and learning side-by-side filled my soul. We made sure to share learning and send love to our mutual friend Lauren Kaufman, whose presence was deeply missed. And it was incredible to reconnect with some of my North Carolina PLN band—Brian Whitson, Lindsey Sipe, and Ashley McBride. Seeing familiar faces from home made it all the more meaningful.

I’ll never forget the rush of moving through the Expo Hall with Andrea as we tried to find one of our longtime inspirations, Jennifer Gonzalez. We’ve admired her work through her Cult of Pedagogy podcast and blog for years. When we finally met, the moment turned into a conversation about music, vinyl, and what’s on our respective turntables. It felt like family.

I had the honor of seeing my mentor, Todd Whitaker, co-present with Steve Gruenert. They are the co-authors of School Culture Rewired, a book that sparked the beginning of #CelebrateMonday for me years ago. During their session, Todd spotted me from the audience and invited me to share a quick story from my seat. That was another in-between moment I won’t forget.

There were so many others. Seeing Danny Steele drop the mic in a session on instructional leadership. Sitting in awe during Suzanne Dailey’s powerful Turbo Talk on happiness. One line in particular stuck with me: “Instead of asking someone how their day was, ask them, ‘Tell me something good.’” That simple shift reframed how I want to connect with others—whether in the hallway, in PLCs, or with students at dismissal. Of course, the uplifting symphony of the words of Baruti Kafele during his session on his book, What Is My Value Instructionally to the Teachers I Supervise? resonated with me deeply.

And perhaps one of the most unexpected and humbling moments? During a roundtable discussion hosted by Educational Leadership magazine, someone referenced this very blog—Principal Liner Notes—as a resource. That meant more to me than I can express. It was one of those quiet nods that affirms you’re doing something that matters.

Bringing It Home: Six In-Between Moves for Meaningful Momentum

When a conference like this ends, it’s easy to slip into the post-event blues. But I choose to stay in the groove—to keep the connection and meaning alive in small but powerful ways. Here are six moves I’m bringing back to the schoolhouse:

MoveWhat to TryWhy It Matters
1. Share One TrackDon’t overwhelm: just share one idea or resource with your team.Simple focus leads to deeper conversation.
2. Ask Better QuestionsReplace “How was your day?” with “Tell me something good.”Invites joy, not just information.
3. Cue the TurntableAsk someone what’s on their playlist, book stack, or lesson plan.Sparks connection beyond the surface.
4. Micro-PD MomentsHost a 15-minute “conference spark” PD during planning or lunch.Small doses of big ideas go a long way.
5. Partner Up with PurposeTry a principal-librarian collaboration or cross-role project.Creativity thrives in unlikely pairings.
6. Keep the Groove GoingSchedule a reconnection call with someone you met at ISTE-ASCD.Keeps momentum rolling beyond the swag bag.

Final Riff

This conference reminded me that the work we do is about people. It’s about presence. It’s about staying in rhythm with the learners, teachers, mentors, and friends who help us write our leadership song.

To everyone I met, hugged, high-fived, or learned with in San Antonio: thank you. You filled my heart. You reminded me of the beauty in the in-between.

So keep asking what’s on someone’s turntable. Keep dancing in the aisle. And most of all—keep leading without limits. .

Learn More About ISTE + ASCD here:

–https://www.ascd.org/

–https://iste.org/

Celebrating Small Wins and Building Delight in the Schoolhouse

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As a principal, I often find myself dreaming big. I thrive on the grand visions, the Moonshot thinking, and the aspirational moves that inspire transformation. I envision a schoolhouse where many hands work together, creating a masterpiece of learning. But here’s the thing: while I may live in that realm of possibility, I know not everyone shares the same bandwidth or sense of urgency. We all move at different speeds, and it’s our responsibility as leaders to gauge where our teams are. To lead effectively, we must be visible, be present, and most importantly, listen. It’s through this intentional awareness that trust is cultivated.

In the past year, I’ve found a renewed appreciation for the power of small wins, a lesson beautifully captured in two books that have become cornerstones of my leadership practice: Legacy of Learning by Meghan Lawson and The Leader Inside by Lauren Kaufman. Both authors remind us of the importance of celebrating small moves as stepping stones to greater heights. They offer a powerful perspective on how small, intentional acts can build momentum, nurture growth, and foster a culture of progress.

Embracing the Power of Small Wins

In today’s educational landscape, many of us are feeling the weight of the pandemic’s aftermath and the uncertainties of new challenges. I see it daily in our school—a fatigue that cannot be lifted by a Jeans Day or a Donut Party. We need more than quick fixes or temporary boosts. As leaders, we must make deeper, more intentional moves that celebrate small wins and bring joy back into our school communities.

One way I’ve embraced this approach is through curating Images of Possibility. I’ve been using Wakelet to capture and share snapshots of the good happening in our schoolhouse—students smiling, engaging in hands-on learning, or experiencing new adventures like a virtual field trip to Alaska via Nearpod. I sent this Wakelet collection to our staff with a simple note, inviting them to pause and savor these moments. It was a small gesture, but it created a powerful ripple of positivity.

During a recent focus group with our teacher assistants, I shared the Wakelet collection and asked them to reflect on the small wins they’ve witnessed. One TA’s words resonated deeply: “A small win is just that—a win. And a win is a win.” Her comment sparked a wave of sharing, as others opened up about personal victories and classroom successes. It was a moment filled with belonging, connection, and most importantly, hope.

Building Delight Through Intentional Leadership

Reading Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara has also shaped my perspective on leadership lately. Guidara talks about building delight, not through grand gestures, but through thoughtful, intentional moves that show we care. This idea has inspired me to rethink how I approach small wins, not as fleeting moments, but as opportunities to build delight and create lasting impact.

We, as leaders, are called to cultivate hope. We must lift each other up, recognizing that our presence and our voice are catalysts for the hope our students need. It’s about finding the small wins, tuning into them with intention, and amplifying them with purpose.

Four Action Steps for Building Delight and Celebrating Small Wins

  1. Curate Moments of Joy: Start a collection on Wakelet to capture images and posts that highlight the everyday successes in your school. Share these with your staff regularly, creating a visual reminder of the good happening in your schoolhouse. It’s a simple yet powerful way to inspire and uplift.
  2. Begin Meetings with Small Wins: Kick off your meetings by inviting staff to share a recent small win. This practice sets a positive tone, fosters a sense of accomplishment, and encourages a mindset of celebration. It’s a small step that can create a big impact.
  3. Build a Culture of Sharing: Encourage your staff and PLN to use the hashtag #SmallWinsEDU across social media platforms. By sharing small wins, we create a dialogue of support and inspiration. Let’s celebrate each other’s victories and build a network of hope together.
  4. Celebrate Progress, Not Just Perfection: Make it a point to notice and celebrate progress, even if it’s incremental. Acknowledge the effort and the journey, not just the final outcome. When we focus on progress, we create a culture where every step forward is valued and celebrated.

A Call to Action

As school leaders, we have the power to shape the narrative. Let’s tune into the small wins, build delight, and create a culture of hope. Let’s support each other in this journey, lifting each other up through the small yet powerful moves we make every day. Together, we can make a difference, one small win at a time.

So, let’s start today. Share your small wins using the hashtag #SmallWinsEDU and let’s create a collective space of inspiration and support. After all, a small win is still a win, and every win deserves to be celebrated.

Keep dreaming big and finding joy in the small moments. We’ve got this—together.

So Long to The Principal Liner Notes Podcast

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Leadership can feel isolating, a reality that can weigh heavily. I’ve often thought of the solitude woven into the journey, wondering how we might transcend it. Over my 17 years as a principal, I’ve felt the weight of those lonely moments—losing connections, facing personal and professional scrutiny, and confronting doubts. Those moments brought a quiet determination to build something that could foster the connection we so often miss in leadership. Thus, The Principal Liner Notes Podcast was born.

When I began the podcast, I recorded episodes solo on my phone, using the Anchor app, talking into the mic about the universal threads between music and leadership. I imagined each episode as a conversation with a fellow leader who needed to hear, “You’re not alone, and your work matters.” Each riff, every anecdote about The Beatles or Miles Davis, was my way of saying, This is for you. Over time, the podcast evolved into a space to build true connections. I began inviting guests I admired, creating what I called “Connected Conversations”—an open invitation to join in reflection and connection.

One of the great joys of the podcast was finding myself with guests who became more than interviewees; they became friends. These were colleagues and mentors from my Professional Learning Network who so generously offered their time, insights, and encouragement. My heartfelt thanks go to each guest who trusted this modest podcast, sharing their stories and making themselves heard. I’ll always treasure those deeply personal conversations, some stretching an hour or two before we even pressed record. These moments of openness and support felt like meeting up at a record store or a quiet coffee shop—creating a space where ideas sparked and spirits connected. I’m profoundly grateful for every guest and for every listener who tuned in, showing up and sharing your thoughts. You were there in those moments, and that connection has left an indelible mark.

I remember my good friend and five-time guest, Lauren Kaufman, perfectly articulating what I hoped the podcast would be: a place to reflect, grow, and connect with others. Her words about the trajectory of the powerful moments we have shared on the podcast have stayed with me, especially as I consider what comes next. She described what I had felt but struggled to express. For that, I’m grateful to her and to every member of my PLN who has taken the time to share an episode, write a note, or repost my reflections. Together, we created a community—one rooted in the idea that each of us, in sharing a piece of ourselves, makes leadership a little less solitary.

This farewell is also a reflection on gratitude. The Principal Liner Notes Podcast was more than a podcast; it was a creative outlet and a chance to share a love of music and leadership. It allowed me to honor the musicians and leaders who have inspired me and to dive into my own passions with renewed enthusiasm. As I step back from this chapter, I’m left with the richness of these experiences, deeply appreciative of the community that has supported me. Maybe these episodes will form the foundation for a future book or a revival of the series one day. Until then, I’m excited to continue exploring new creative paths. Projects like Hope Amplified with my good friend Meghan Lawson, and Chords of Connection, a solo podcast centered on music and storytelling, are on the horizon, and I look forward to seeing where those journeys lead.

The spirit of this transition reminds me of Simon & Garfunkel’s farewell anthem, “So Long, Frank Lloyd Wright,” a tender goodbye from their final album. It’s a nod to the end of an era, yet it carries the anticipation of what lies ahead in their individual creative paths. This podcast, in that same spirit, is about moving forward—grateful for what’s been and inspired for what’s next.

In reflecting on this transition, I’m reminded of the late Tom Snyder and his poignant final episode of Tomorrow. He signed off with dignity and a sense of gratitude that I hope to echo here. With each episode, I tried to foster meaning and connection, and as I bring The Principal Liner Notes Podcast to a close, I leave with the same sense of gratitude and hope for the connections yet to come. My goal is to continue sharing those connections through future podcast projects—and maybe even a new book. These chapters, filled with purpose, leave me deeply thankful for the music, leaders, and each of you who have been part of this journey.

To my listeners, thank you for being there—whether on a morning walk, a drive, or a quiet afternoon. Your choice to press play, to share these reflections, has meant the world. And as I sign off, I leave with this message: “Don’t forget to share your thoughts, words, ideas, and dreams with the world. The world needs them, and YOU make it a better place.”

Thank you for listening, for tuning in, for connecting, and for making leadership a little less lonely.

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Illuminating Your Core: Leadership Moves for Authenticity

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When I was a young adult, I used to shudder at the statement, “Be yourself.” It seemed like a trite sentiment, almost painfully obvious. Of course, one would want to be oneself. Why wouldn’t that advice make sense? Now, in my later years as a school principal, I have a much deeper appreciation for those words.

During my early years as a principal, I believed I had to conform to the image others had of a school leader. I modeled myself after the austere principals I saw in films like Lean On Me. I thought I needed to wear a three-piece suit, keep my shoes polished, and stride through the building with a Morgan Freeman-like swagger. For those who know me, that’s not the character I am in the story I’m writing as a leader. I quickly learned that those I served could see through the facade and empathized with my internal struggle. I was pretending to be something I wasn’t, and I needed to return to my core values as a leader.

Seeking advice from the best leader I know, my father, I was reminded to hold my head high and stay true to my values. With his guidance and the support of a leadership coach, I was able to reflect on my core values and not only articulate them but also act with authenticity. It was a long journey of reflection and discovery, but it was worth it and helped shape the leader I am today.

We all have a story we are composing that serves as the architecture for our life’s journey. Early in my leadership as a principal, I learned the importance of carrying your values with courage, passion, and humility. My good friend, Lauren Kaufman, beautifully explores the significance of storytelling in unleashing one’s leadership potential in her recent book, The Leader Inside: Stories of Mentorship to Inspire the Leader Within. The inspiring Baruti Kafele, also known as Principal Kafele, emphasizes the importance of staying true to your leadership core. Your leadership core is the DNA of your momentum as a leader. It embodies the values that drive your vision and mission.

In the latest edition of Ryan Holiday’s The Daily Stoic newsletter, Holiday underscores the absolute importance of being yourself and embracing who you are. This resonated with me and highlighted the essential move of embracing our leadership core. We must remain true to ourselves as leaders and individuals. There will be naysayers who try to divert you from your core, and sometimes you may be your own worst critic. This self-doubt cannot be tolerated. Questioning your core and the goodness within leads to a path of devastation filled with Imposter Syndrome and personal well-being fractures. Trust me, I’ve been there and know the negative effects. I’ve seen it ruin leaders.

Stephen M.R. Covey’s pivotal book, Trust and Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash Greatness in Others, talks about the need for a new type of leadership in our ever-shifting global landscape. Covey challenges leaders to shift from a “Command and Control” style to one rooted in the ethos of “Trust and Inspire.” To flow as “Trust and Inspire” leaders, we must take stock of our authentic selves and connect with others. Remember, leadership is not about getting others to follow but rather about amplifying and encouraging the unique strengths of others.

Whether you are a leader returning to an assignment or starting anew, who you are matters. Your leadership is needed for a reason. Don’t shortchange your passion or compromise what inspires you. If you are an unabashed Taylor Swift fan and that inspires your leadership, then share it and incorporate it into your daily banter. If you are an avid, amateur geologist, then let rocks and soil be part of your faculty repertoire. By embracing the light of your leadership core, you build a culture of trust and inspire others to do the same.

I often sign off on the #PrincipalLinerNotes podcast with the following thought: “Don’t forget to share with the world your dreams, ideas, and insights because the world needs them, and you help make the world a better place for others.” This rings true for leaders grappling with expressing their authentic selves. You have value, and your leadership core will ignite gifts in others, making your school or organization a place that will better our world and community. Illuminate your core and let its light inspire others to do the same.

Action Steps for Leaders

  1. Reflect on Your Core Values: Take time to deeply consider what values are most important to you as a leader. Write them down and think about how they influence your actions and decisions.
  2. Seek Authentic Feedback: Engage with a mentor or leadership coach who can provide honest feedback and help you align your actions with your core values.
  3. Embrace Your Passions: Integrate your personal interests and passions into your leadership style. This authenticity will resonate with and inspire those you lead.
  4. Create a Culture of Trust: Foster an environment where others feel safe to express their authentic selves. Encourage and amplify the unique strengths of your team members.

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