Rejection is a reality. It happens, and it stings. Sometimes, the worst rejection isn’t from others who naysay, doubt, or echo endlessly the phrases, “We’ve never done it this way…” or “We always have…” Often, it’s the rejection we inflict upon ourselves that hurts the most.

The Beatles faced rejection head-on. In my 2018 book, The Pepper Effect, I recount their infamous rejection by Decca Records in 1962. The label dismissed them with the now-legendary phrase: “Guitar groups are on their way out.” Yet, the Beatles didn’t let that stop them. Instead, they adopted a “reset mindset” amidst the setback. They persevered, refined their craft, and sought opportunities elsewhere. Their resilience led to a groundbreaking partnership with producer George Martin and, eventually, music that would change the world.

Recently, I revisited the concept of resilience while reading Penny Zenker’s The Reset Mindset. Zenker outlines a three-step process for overcoming both personal and professional setbacks: Step Back, Get Perspective, and Realign. Her approach emphasizes mindful choices and intentional progress. The Beatles, whether consciously or not, exemplified this mindset. They regrouped, made strategic changes (including bringing Ringo Starr into the band), and doubled down on their songwriting. Their determination and shared vision propelled them to unimaginable heights.

I’ve endured my own share of rejection—writer’s block, rejected book proposals, pilfered ideas from unreliable collaborators, and negative problem admirers eclipsing possibilities. At times, I’ve been my harshest critic, rejecting myself before anyone else had the chance. Pressing “Publish” on a blog post can feel like stepping off a ledge, wondering if anyone will read it or if it will resonate. Recording a podcast episode Yet, a trusted thought partner recently reminded me to let my words go—to trust they’ll land where they’re meant to do so.

This advice brought to mind the Beatles’ 1968 self-titled album, commonly known as the “White Album.” This sprawling, 30-song masterpiece faced criticism for being too long or unfocused. Paul McCartney’s response? “It’s great, it sold, it’s the bloody Beatles’ White Album, shut up!” That unapologetic confidence is a lesson in staying true to one’s vision and maintaining a reset mindset.

I channeled that spirit recently when deciding whether to bring my guitar to a school assembly. As a new principal at my school, I felt hesitation. I have been a principal for 16 years and I have lugged my guitar to school for various events so this was not first gig with a guitar in the schoolhouse. Yet, I endured a series of stumbling doubts with bringing my guitar along to school. Would this feel out of place? Would it connect? But in the end, I applied the Reset Mindset. I took an intentional step back to reflect and wonder. I focused on my purpose: creating a joyful, meaningful moment for our students. I decided to move forward, tune into building a culture of belonging for students and faculty, and bring my beloved guitar to the scheduled grade level assemblies. Music is an entry point for others and serves a divine thread that connects us to our shared humanity.

The butterflies didn’t stop as I hurriedly carried my guitar into school, but when I sat down in front of our first graders and began to play, I knew I’d made the right choice. The laughter, joy, and connection we shared affirmed the decision. It was a reminder of the power of leading with authenticity and purpose. I love playing music and I wanted to be unabashedly comfortable with my best self.

Recently, on my podcast Why The Beatles Matter, I had a conversation with Dr. Donya Ball that gave me even more perspective on rejection. It was serendipitous that she brought up the idea of leaders leaning into and accepting rejection.  As I was just working on this blog post before our conversation, I readily welcomed her insight on rejection. She shared how we, as leaders, don’t talk about rejection enough and how it’s a necessary part of growth. I deeply appreciated her real talk on this reality. Rejection, she said, is an opportunity to renew, recalibrate, and re-focus. It’s another way to adapt the Reset Mindset—seeing rejection not as the end or the finality of an idea, but as a stepping stone to connect with others, build collaborative coalitions, or simply reset.

As leaders, our gig is to create meaningful moments that inspire, connect, and uplift. When we embrace resilience and focus on our purpose, we transcend rejection and lead from a place of authenticity.

Four Leadership Moves Inspired by The Beatles and the Reset Mindset:

1. Evolve and Adapt: The Beatles didn’t let their rejection by Decca define them. They stepped back, reflected on what they needed, and made a bold move by bringing in Ringo Starr. This pivotal decision transformed their sound and solidified their lineup, exemplifying the importance of adapting to move forward.
2. Collaborate with Vision: Recognizing the need for a fresh perspective, the Beatles partnered with George Martin, who brought a new dimension to their music. This collaboration highlighted the power of seeking thought partners who align with your vision and elevate your work.
3. Refine Your Craft: After their setback at the failed Decca Records Audition, the Beatles didn’t stagnate. They doubled down on songwriting, tirelessly honing their skills and experimenting with new ideas. This relentless pursuit of excellence demonstrates how leaders can use rejection as fuel to refine their craft.
4. Stay True to Your Purpose: Despite criticism and pushback, The Beatles never abandoned their creative vision. Whether it was the ambitious scope of the “White Album” or their genre-defying innovations, they stayed true to their purpose, leading with authenticity and confidence.

The importance of tuning into the Reset Mindset cannot be overstated. As leaders, modeling this mindset for others empowers our teams and fosters resilience. Let’s embrace the journey together and inspire others to do the same.

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Resources to Dig Deeper for Reflection and Action

Tune in to the upcoming episode of my podcast, Why The Beatles Matter, where I continue this conversation with Dr. Donya Ball. Her insights on leadership, rejection, and authenticity are not to be missed. Plus, she’s a joy to engage in for conversation! You can also learn more about her work and check out her TEDx Talk at https://www.donyaball.com/.

Explore more connections to The Beatles and leadership in my book, The Pepper Effect: Tap into the Magic of Creativity, Collaboration, and Innovation.

Check out Penny Zenker’s The Reset Mindset: How To Get Unstuck, Focus on What Matters Most, and Reach Your Goals Faster.

Paul McCartney on “The White Album” as mentioned above: It’s a great quote and shows The Reset Mindset in action.