Two years ago, I probably would have said no. I would have found an excuse. I would have allowed fear, discomfort, or uncertainty to talk me out of the moment. My eyes would have remained fixed on an email, a text, or a document. I would have been determined to beat the clock or conquer another deadline.

This time, I said yes.

My daughter Rachel suggested that we ride bikes together at Sunset Beach. She had mentioned the idea to my wife, Deb, before, but I had been noncommittal. I had not ridden a bike in years, and Rachel gently reminded me of something that stopped me in my tracks.

“Dad, we’ve never ridden bikes together.”

She was right. We borrowed a few bikes stored at the house we were renting, and I wondered whether I would remember how to ride. I did.

Before long, I was smiling, laughing, and waving to people as we passed them. I wished strangers a good morning. I rode between Deb and Rachel, overwhelmed by the beauty and simplicity of the moment.

I could hear Mike Nesmith’s “Rio” playing in my mind. A lyric from the song found its way to my lips, and I softly sang, “I feel such a sense of well being. The problems have come to be solved.”

No, the problems had not disappeared. The professional disappointments were still there. The questions about purpose, belonging, and what comes next had not suddenly been answered. The pangs of imposter syndrome and professional loneliness still gnawed at me. For that moment, though, none of them controlled me. All I cared about was mattering to my wife and daughter and helping them feel that they mattered to me.

Deb, riding behind me, softly said, “This wouldn’t have happened two years ago.”

She was right. Two years ago, I would have found a way out of the ride. I would have stayed behind, protected by what felt familiar and safe. This time, I got on the bike.

As I rode through the streets of Sunset Beach, tears rolled down my face and a smile formed. For that moment, I was free.

At the end of our ride, I hugged Rachel. I felt proud of the strong woman she has become. I also felt proud that I had stepped outside my comfort zone and modeled something important for her.

We are never too old to try again. We are never too far gone to rediscover joy. We are never too broken to experience a moment of healing.

People want to matter. People want to belong. Sometimes the most meaningful way we communicate that is not through a speech, a program, or a grand gesture. Sometimes we simply say yes. I said yes to someone I love.

Healing does not always announce itself with fireworks, applause, professional recognition, or social media likes. Sometimes it arrives on an old bicycle, riding between the people you love, with the sun on your face and a song playing quietly in your soul. Sometimes healing looks like a bicycle ride.

That ride reminded me to remain close to my core. Our core is made up of the people, values, and moments that remind us who we are. We must stay close to the people who need our love, the people who remind us where we came from, and the people who knew us before the title, the position, or the accomplishments. We must stay close to the people who know our name and not merely our role.

For too many years, I made the mistake of prioritizing position over presence. It took two trips to the emergency room for me to begin understanding the cost of that choice. I learned it the hard way, and I would not wish that lesson on anyone.

We are called to be human centered in our work as leaders. Before we can do that authentically, we must be human centered at home. We must be intentionally present for the people who love us without a title, an agenda, or an expectation attached. They do not see us as a data point, and they do not need us to carry another deadline. They simply want us there. Rachel did not need me to solve a problem, answer an email, or accomplish something impressive. She wanted to ride bikes with her dad. This time, I said yes, and I am grateful I did.

Here’s to continuing the conversation.

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