Leadership Beyond the Podium: Lessons from Dad and the Olympic Spirit

Advice from Dad

“It’s not about you anymore.”

That was the statement my father shared with me when I sought his advice for my first leadership challenge. I was newly appointed as the English Department Chair and was grappling with a seemingly small issue. Naturally, I turned to the best leadership coach I know—my dad. He was blunt and direct, following up with, “Hold your head high like I taught you.”

It took me some time to fully understand the depth of that lesson. Leadership, I realized, isn’t about advancing my own goals; it’s about lifting others up and amplifying their strengths.

In the Olympic Spirit

The 2024 Paris Olympics have been a treasure trove of inspiring stories and moments that remind us of our shared humanity. I’ve been captivated by the Olympic Spirit—athletes from different countries embracing and encouraging each other in the face of fierce competition.

One story that stood out to me was featured in Inc. Magazine. It highlighted a powerful leadership lesson from Katie Ledecky, an Olympic medalist extraordinaire. During one of her many medal ceremonies, as she stood on the podium with her gold medal, she invited her teammate, Paige Madden, to join her. Despite Madden earning a bronze, her journey to Paris was marked by significant health challenges. Yet she persevered. Ledecky, already cemented as one of the greatest Olympians of all time, showed remarkable leadership by literally uplifting a teammate to share the glory on a global stage.

True Leadership

Leadership isn’t about titles or authority. It’s not about getting people to follow orders. True leadership is about recognizing potential in others and empowering them to shine. I’m immensely grateful for the mentors, coaches, and teachers who saw something in me that I couldn’t see in myself. They pushed me out of my comfort zone, helping me take both small and giant steps toward becoming the leader I am today. As someone who stood out in my awkwardness as a youth, I’m especially thankful for those in the schoolhouse who believed in me.

As a school principal, I see it as my duty to coach others to reach new heights, drawing on their unique strengths and talents. My heart belongs in the classroom. Even though I’m no longer assigned to one, I firmly believe that a principal’s role is to facilitate and model leadership for all teachers and staff members. I love mentoring and coaching budding leaders within the schoolhouse, which is a crucial responsibility for any principal. We are talent scouts, tuning into the strengths of others and creating an environment where those strengths can flourish and evolve into leadership.

One of the most rewarding aspects of my role has been the opportunity to coach principal interns and assistant principals. Watching their careers blossom into significant roles—whether as principals, central office directors, or even a superintendent—has been a true testament to the power of mentorship and guidance. Seeing them take what they’ve learned and apply it in their own leadership journeys fills me with pride and reinforces the importance of investing in others.

A principal’s job is to lead, manage, and supervise, but it doesn’t end there. The vision and mission of a schoolhouse rests on the principal’s shoulders, but it must be shared and modeled in order to empower others. We can’t do it alone. Part of our role is to inspire leadership within the community we serve. Too often, we see diluted versions of leadership reduced to superficial stunts—like standing on tables or staging selfies to appear innovative. But real leadership isn’t about appearances; it’s about inviting others to share their gifts, strengths, and abilities. As my father often says, “Everyone plays. Everyone is off the bench.” As leaders, our job is to call people off the bench, encouraging them to play to each other’s strengths and score points for our kids. Everyone should be invited to stand on the gold medal podium, sharing in the success and lifting others along the way.

Four Actionable Steps for Leaders:

  1. Embrace a Servant Leadership Mindset: Shift your focus from personal success to empowering others. Your role is to amplify the strengths and gifts of those around you.
  2. Be a Talent Scout: Identify and nurture the potential in your team. Create opportunities for others to step up and lead, and encourage them to take on new challenges.
  3. Model Leadership Daily: Lead by example. Show your team what true leadership looks like through your actions, whether it’s mentoring a colleague or stepping back to let others shine.
  4. Check Out #TheLeaderInside: Dive into The Leader Inside: Stories of Mentorship to Inspire the Leader Within by Lauren Kaufman. It’s a treasure trove of stories that can inspire you to cultivate leadership in yourself and others. Read more here.

True leadership is about lifting others to new heights and creating a culture where everyone plays. Let’s all stand together on that gold medal podium, celebrating each other’s successes and pushing each other to be the best we can be

Illuminating Your Core: Leadership Moves for Authenticity

When I was a young adult, I used to shudder at the statement, “Be yourself.” It seemed like a trite sentiment, almost painfully obvious. Of course, one would want to be oneself. Why wouldn’t that advice make sense? Now, in my later years as a school principal, I have a much deeper appreciation for those words.

During my early years as a principal, I believed I had to conform to the image others had of a school leader. I modeled myself after the austere principals I saw in films like Lean On Me. I thought I needed to wear a three-piece suit, keep my shoes polished, and stride through the building with a Morgan Freeman-like swagger. For those who know me, that’s not the character I am in the story I’m writing as a leader. I quickly learned that those I served could see through the facade and empathized with my internal struggle. I was pretending to be something I wasn’t, and I needed to return to my core values as a leader.

Seeking advice from the best leader I know, my father, I was reminded to hold my head high and stay true to my values. With his guidance and the support of a leadership coach, I was able to reflect on my core values and not only articulate them but also act with authenticity. It was a long journey of reflection and discovery, but it was worth it and helped shape the leader I am today.

We all have a story we are composing that serves as the architecture for our life’s journey. Early in my leadership as a principal, I learned the importance of carrying your values with courage, passion, and humility. My good friend, Lauren Kaufman, beautifully explores the significance of storytelling in unleashing one’s leadership potential in her recent book, The Leader Inside: Stories of Mentorship to Inspire the Leader Within. The inspiring Baruti Kafele, also known as Principal Kafele, emphasizes the importance of staying true to your leadership core. Your leadership core is the DNA of your momentum as a leader. It embodies the values that drive your vision and mission.

In the latest edition of Ryan Holiday’s The Daily Stoic newsletter, Holiday underscores the absolute importance of being yourself and embracing who you are. This resonated with me and highlighted the essential move of embracing our leadership core. We must remain true to ourselves as leaders and individuals. There will be naysayers who try to divert you from your core, and sometimes you may be your own worst critic. This self-doubt cannot be tolerated. Questioning your core and the goodness within leads to a path of devastation filled with Imposter Syndrome and personal well-being fractures. Trust me, I’ve been there and know the negative effects. I’ve seen it ruin leaders.

Stephen M.R. Covey’s pivotal book, Trust and Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash Greatness in Others, talks about the need for a new type of leadership in our ever-shifting global landscape. Covey challenges leaders to shift from a “Command and Control” style to one rooted in the ethos of “Trust and Inspire.” To flow as “Trust and Inspire” leaders, we must take stock of our authentic selves and connect with others. Remember, leadership is not about getting others to follow but rather about amplifying and encouraging the unique strengths of others.

Whether you are a leader returning to an assignment or starting anew, who you are matters. Your leadership is needed for a reason. Don’t shortchange your passion or compromise what inspires you. If you are an unabashed Taylor Swift fan and that inspires your leadership, then share it and incorporate it into your daily banter. If you are an avid, amateur geologist, then let rocks and soil be part of your faculty repertoire. By embracing the light of your leadership core, you build a culture of trust and inspire others to do the same.

I often sign off on the #PrincipalLinerNotes podcast with the following thought: “Don’t forget to share with the world your dreams, ideas, and insights because the world needs them, and you help make the world a better place for others.” This rings true for leaders grappling with expressing their authentic selves. You have value, and your leadership core will ignite gifts in others, making your school or organization a place that will better our world and community. Illuminate your core and let its light inspire others to do the same.

Action Steps for Leaders

  1. Reflect on Your Core Values: Take time to deeply consider what values are most important to you as a leader. Write them down and think about how they influence your actions and decisions.
  2. Seek Authentic Feedback: Engage with a mentor or leadership coach who can provide honest feedback and help you align your actions with your core values.
  3. Embrace Your Passions: Integrate your personal interests and passions into your leadership style. This authenticity will resonate with and inspire those you lead.
  4. Create a Culture of Trust: Foster an environment where others feel safe to express their authentic selves. Encourage and amplify the unique strengths of your team members.

Links to Books Mentioned