
Advice from Dad
“It’s not about you anymore.”
That was the statement my father shared with me when I sought his advice for my first leadership challenge. I was newly appointed as the English Department Chair and was grappling with a seemingly small issue. Naturally, I turned to the best leadership coach I know—my dad. He was blunt and direct, following up with, “Hold your head high like I taught you.”
It took me some time to fully understand the depth of that lesson. Leadership, I realized, isn’t about advancing my own goals; it’s about lifting others up and amplifying their strengths.
In the Olympic Spirit
The 2024 Paris Olympics have been a treasure trove of inspiring stories and moments that remind us of our shared humanity. I’ve been captivated by the Olympic Spirit—athletes from different countries embracing and encouraging each other in the face of fierce competition.
One story that stood out to me was featured in Inc. Magazine. It highlighted a powerful leadership lesson from Katie Ledecky, an Olympic medalist extraordinaire. During one of her many medal ceremonies, as she stood on the podium with her gold medal, she invited her teammate, Paige Madden, to join her. Despite Madden earning a bronze, her journey to Paris was marked by significant health challenges. Yet she persevered. Ledecky, already cemented as one of the greatest Olympians of all time, showed remarkable leadership by literally uplifting a teammate to share the glory on a global stage.
True Leadership
Leadership isn’t about titles or authority. It’s not about getting people to follow orders. True leadership is about recognizing potential in others and empowering them to shine. I’m immensely grateful for the mentors, coaches, and teachers who saw something in me that I couldn’t see in myself. They pushed me out of my comfort zone, helping me take both small and giant steps toward becoming the leader I am today. As someone who stood out in my awkwardness as a youth, I’m especially thankful for those in the schoolhouse who believed in me.
As a school principal, I see it as my duty to coach others to reach new heights, drawing on their unique strengths and talents. My heart belongs in the classroom. Even though I’m no longer assigned to one, I firmly believe that a principal’s role is to facilitate and model leadership for all teachers and staff members. I love mentoring and coaching budding leaders within the schoolhouse, which is a crucial responsibility for any principal. We are talent scouts, tuning into the strengths of others and creating an environment where those strengths can flourish and evolve into leadership.
One of the most rewarding aspects of my role has been the opportunity to coach principal interns and assistant principals. Watching their careers blossom into significant roles—whether as principals, central office directors, or even a superintendent—has been a true testament to the power of mentorship and guidance. Seeing them take what they’ve learned and apply it in their own leadership journeys fills me with pride and reinforces the importance of investing in others.
A principal’s job is to lead, manage, and supervise, but it doesn’t end there. The vision and mission of a schoolhouse rests on the principal’s shoulders, but it must be shared and modeled in order to empower others. We can’t do it alone. Part of our role is to inspire leadership within the community we serve. Too often, we see diluted versions of leadership reduced to superficial stunts—like standing on tables or staging selfies to appear innovative. But real leadership isn’t about appearances; it’s about inviting others to share their gifts, strengths, and abilities. As my father often says, “Everyone plays. Everyone is off the bench.” As leaders, our job is to call people off the bench, encouraging them to play to each other’s strengths and score points for our kids. Everyone should be invited to stand on the gold medal podium, sharing in the success and lifting others along the way.
Four Actionable Steps for Leaders:
- Embrace a Servant Leadership Mindset: Shift your focus from personal success to empowering others. Your role is to amplify the strengths and gifts of those around you.
- Be a Talent Scout: Identify and nurture the potential in your team. Create opportunities for others to step up and lead, and encourage them to take on new challenges.
- Model Leadership Daily: Lead by example. Show your team what true leadership looks like through your actions, whether it’s mentoring a colleague or stepping back to let others shine.
- Check Out #TheLeaderInside: Dive into The Leader Inside: Stories of Mentorship to Inspire the Leader Within by Lauren Kaufman. It’s a treasure trove of stories that can inspire you to cultivate leadership in yourself and others. Read more here.
True leadership is about lifting others to new heights and creating a culture where everyone plays. Let’s all stand together on that gold medal podium, celebrating each other’s successes and pushing each other to be the best we can be
