Baruti Kafele

The In-Between Moments: Finding the Groove of Connection at ISTE + ASCD

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I’m dancing.

The groove is on the move in San Antonio, and Marvin Gaye’s “Got To Give It Up” is pulling me into the aisle at the end of an unforgettable MainStage experience at the ISTE + ASCD Conference. DJ Catwalk is spinning the exit music. The room is clearing out after being inspired by the beautiful voices and stories of Sabba Quidwai, Scott Shigeoka, and Jason Reynolds. And there I am—dancing alone. No choreography. No cool moves. Just me, caught in the joy of the moment.

This was one of those in-between moments—the kind you don’t plan for but end up meaning the most. The kind that happens off-script, off-schedule, and sometimes even offbeat. It’s like a classroom teachable moment or when a band falls into an unexpected groove and something beautiful just… happens.

I hadn’t been to ISTE in six years. I had never been to an ASCD event. I have been a member of both organizations for years. But this first combined experience didn’t feel like two worlds crashing together—it felt like home. It reminded me of The Brady Bunch hitting its stride: unless you were paying attention to the lyrics or the first season, you forgot it was a blended family. It was seamless, like when the Brady kids became a singing group and belted out “It’s A Sunshine Day.”

There were many moments that filled my heart.

I was honored to be named an ISTE-ASCD 20 to Watch Award recipient. (Grateful for to meet Lauren Richardson!) It was humbling beyond words. I was also privileged to co-present with my friend and thought-partner, Dr. Andrea Trudeau, on the partnership between principals and librarians—a project that has grown from our year-long ISTE-ASCD Expert Webinar Series. That presentation was special, no doubt.

But the moments in between—those moments between sessions, in the aisles, on bookstore strolls, and even in hurried walks through the Expo Hall—are the ones that have stayed with me. Like meeting finally, Jacie Maslyk, an amazing author and expert on STEM and Literacy, was akin to meeting a member of The Beatles. Or even meeting Jen Rafferty, an inspiring voice and friend in my PLN, was so meaningful.

I had the joy of finally meeting my longtime friend and collaborator, Meghan Lawson, in person. Walking the bookstore with her, sharing sessions, and learning side-by-side filled my soul. We made sure to share learning and send love to our mutual friend Lauren Kaufman, whose presence was deeply missed. And it was incredible to reconnect with some of my North Carolina PLN band—Brian Whitson, Lindsey Sipe, and Ashley McBride. Seeing familiar faces from home made it all the more meaningful.

I’ll never forget the rush of moving through the Expo Hall with Andrea as we tried to find one of our longtime inspirations, Jennifer Gonzalez. We’ve admired her work through her Cult of Pedagogy podcast and blog for years. When we finally met, the moment turned into a conversation about music, vinyl, and what’s on our respective turntables. It felt like family.

I had the honor of seeing my mentor, Todd Whitaker, co-present with Steve Gruenert. They are the co-authors of School Culture Rewired, a book that sparked the beginning of #CelebrateMonday for me years ago. During their session, Todd spotted me from the audience and invited me to share a quick story from my seat. That was another in-between moment I won’t forget.

There were so many others. Seeing Danny Steele drop the mic in a session on instructional leadership. Sitting in awe during Suzanne Dailey’s powerful Turbo Talk on happiness. One line in particular stuck with me: “Instead of asking someone how their day was, ask them, ‘Tell me something good.’” That simple shift reframed how I want to connect with others—whether in the hallway, in PLCs, or with students at dismissal. Of course, the uplifting symphony of the words of Baruti Kafele during his session on his book, What Is My Value Instructionally to the Teachers I Supervise? resonated with me deeply.

And perhaps one of the most unexpected and humbling moments? During a roundtable discussion hosted by Educational Leadership magazine, someone referenced this very blog—Principal Liner Notes—as a resource. That meant more to me than I can express. It was one of those quiet nods that affirms you’re doing something that matters.

Bringing It Home: Six In-Between Moves for Meaningful Momentum

When a conference like this ends, it’s easy to slip into the post-event blues. But I choose to stay in the groove—to keep the connection and meaning alive in small but powerful ways. Here are six moves I’m bringing back to the schoolhouse:

MoveWhat to TryWhy It Matters
1. Share One TrackDon’t overwhelm: just share one idea or resource with your team.Simple focus leads to deeper conversation.
2. Ask Better QuestionsReplace “How was your day?” with “Tell me something good.”Invites joy, not just information.
3. Cue the TurntableAsk someone what’s on their playlist, book stack, or lesson plan.Sparks connection beyond the surface.
4. Micro-PD MomentsHost a 15-minute “conference spark” PD during planning or lunch.Small doses of big ideas go a long way.
5. Partner Up with PurposeTry a principal-librarian collaboration or cross-role project.Creativity thrives in unlikely pairings.
6. Keep the Groove GoingSchedule a reconnection call with someone you met at ISTE-ASCD.Keeps momentum rolling beyond the swag bag.

Final Riff

This conference reminded me that the work we do is about people. It’s about presence. It’s about staying in rhythm with the learners, teachers, mentors, and friends who help us write our leadership song.

To everyone I met, hugged, high-fived, or learned with in San Antonio: thank you. You filled my heart. You reminded me of the beauty in the in-between.

So keep asking what’s on someone’s turntable. Keep dancing in the aisle. And most of all—keep leading without limits. .

Learn More About ISTE + ASCD here:

–https://www.ascd.org/

–https://iste.org/

Illuminating Your Core: Leadership Moves for Authenticity

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When I was a young adult, I used to shudder at the statement, “Be yourself.” It seemed like a trite sentiment, almost painfully obvious. Of course, one would want to be oneself. Why wouldn’t that advice make sense? Now, in my later years as a school principal, I have a much deeper appreciation for those words.

During my early years as a principal, I believed I had to conform to the image others had of a school leader. I modeled myself after the austere principals I saw in films like Lean On Me. I thought I needed to wear a three-piece suit, keep my shoes polished, and stride through the building with a Morgan Freeman-like swagger. For those who know me, that’s not the character I am in the story I’m writing as a leader. I quickly learned that those I served could see through the facade and empathized with my internal struggle. I was pretending to be something I wasn’t, and I needed to return to my core values as a leader.

Seeking advice from the best leader I know, my father, I was reminded to hold my head high and stay true to my values. With his guidance and the support of a leadership coach, I was able to reflect on my core values and not only articulate them but also act with authenticity. It was a long journey of reflection and discovery, but it was worth it and helped shape the leader I am today.

We all have a story we are composing that serves as the architecture for our life’s journey. Early in my leadership as a principal, I learned the importance of carrying your values with courage, passion, and humility. My good friend, Lauren Kaufman, beautifully explores the significance of storytelling in unleashing one’s leadership potential in her recent book, The Leader Inside: Stories of Mentorship to Inspire the Leader Within. The inspiring Baruti Kafele, also known as Principal Kafele, emphasizes the importance of staying true to your leadership core. Your leadership core is the DNA of your momentum as a leader. It embodies the values that drive your vision and mission.

In the latest edition of Ryan Holiday’s The Daily Stoic newsletter, Holiday underscores the absolute importance of being yourself and embracing who you are. This resonated with me and highlighted the essential move of embracing our leadership core. We must remain true to ourselves as leaders and individuals. There will be naysayers who try to divert you from your core, and sometimes you may be your own worst critic. This self-doubt cannot be tolerated. Questioning your core and the goodness within leads to a path of devastation filled with Imposter Syndrome and personal well-being fractures. Trust me, I’ve been there and know the negative effects. I’ve seen it ruin leaders.

Stephen M.R. Covey’s pivotal book, Trust and Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash Greatness in Others, talks about the need for a new type of leadership in our ever-shifting global landscape. Covey challenges leaders to shift from a “Command and Control” style to one rooted in the ethos of “Trust and Inspire.” To flow as “Trust and Inspire” leaders, we must take stock of our authentic selves and connect with others. Remember, leadership is not about getting others to follow but rather about amplifying and encouraging the unique strengths of others.

Whether you are a leader returning to an assignment or starting anew, who you are matters. Your leadership is needed for a reason. Don’t shortchange your passion or compromise what inspires you. If you are an unabashed Taylor Swift fan and that inspires your leadership, then share it and incorporate it into your daily banter. If you are an avid, amateur geologist, then let rocks and soil be part of your faculty repertoire. By embracing the light of your leadership core, you build a culture of trust and inspire others to do the same.

I often sign off on the #PrincipalLinerNotes podcast with the following thought: “Don’t forget to share with the world your dreams, ideas, and insights because the world needs them, and you help make the world a better place for others.” This rings true for leaders grappling with expressing their authentic selves. You have value, and your leadership core will ignite gifts in others, making your school or organization a place that will better our world and community. Illuminate your core and let its light inspire others to do the same.

Action Steps for Leaders

  1. Reflect on Your Core Values: Take time to deeply consider what values are most important to you as a leader. Write them down and think about how they influence your actions and decisions.
  2. Seek Authentic Feedback: Engage with a mentor or leadership coach who can provide honest feedback and help you align your actions with your core values.
  3. Embrace Your Passions: Integrate your personal interests and passions into your leadership style. This authenticity will resonate with and inspire those you lead.
  4. Create a Culture of Trust: Foster an environment where others feel safe to express their authentic selves. Encourage and amplify the unique strengths of your team members.

Links to Books Mentioned