What They Don’t Teach You in Principal School

There are many lessons learned in the proverbial “Principal School.” I am grateful for my graduate courses in school administration. But as I near year 17 as an administrator, I reflect on those lessons that weren’t taught in class but were learned on the job and in the moment.

One of the most significant lessons I had to learn on the job is this:

Leadership can be a lonely gig.

Let that sentence sink in. As a school principal, I’ve been blessed with countless experiences where I’ve served others and had the opportunity to make a positive impact. The days filled with fist pumps, laughter at my corny jokes, beautiful moments where a student discovers the joy of learning, or when a teacher steps into a teachable moment and ignites a synergy of learning—those moments are inspiring and reassuring. Yet, there are also days when tough decisions must be made, and you’re met with resistance. The stress of leading change can be intense, especially when met with hesitation. There’s an aura of isolation that can follow the principal because you’re the lone person with that title in the schoolhouse.

I often reflect on John Fogerty’s story about performing with Creedence Clearwater Revival at Woodstock. Their late-night set followed the Grateful Dead, and much of the audience had fallen asleep. Fogerty shared how disconnected they felt from the crowd until one audience member yelled out, “Don’t worry, John, we’re with you.” Those words compelled Fogerty to play harder and persevere. In many ways, the principalship mirrors this experience. We often lead schools against the grain of the status quo, pushing forward even when we feel isolated. But just like CCR did at Woodstock, we find our groove and keep playing, leveraging good things for others.

You Are Not Alone

There are many ways principals sustain their leadership purpose. We read, attend conferences, pursue camaraderie with other school leaders, hit the gym, and connect with families. These activities are essential to maintaining our well-being as leaders. But perhaps one of the most crucial aspects of our roles is maintaining connection and rapport. Due to the intense nature of our position, isolation can creep in, making it vital for us to find our own “band” within the school—a leadership team, instructional leadership team, or PLC. This collaborative cohort within the building is essential for battling isolation.

Every principal needs a thought partner. In a recent discussion on my #PrincipalLinerNotes podcast, I had the joy of talking with School Librarian Extraordinaire, Andrea Trudeau. We discussed the unique partnership between a principal and a school librarian. Both roles often stand alone in the schoolhouse, making intentional collaboration necessary. This conversation enlarged my thinking on the essential nature of thought partnership. A principal needs someone to share ideas with, dream big with, and sometimes pull them back down to earth. A thought partner can help battle isolation and serve as a bridge for collaborative camaraderie—a reminder that you’re not the only one.

Epiphanies in the PLN

As a connected educator, I take great care to nurture my Professional Learning Network (PLN). I work to forge connections for collaboration and learning with other educators and school leaders. It’s one way I combat the isolation that can accompany the principalship. Finding kindred spirits in my PLN is invaluable; I can connect with digital thought partners who trade ideas and share resources. I also appreciate the outreach I can maintain by sharing content through my podcast and blog.

However, the other day, I faced a moment of doubt when something in my PLN caused disappointment. I considered pausing my writing and podcasting, feeling irrelevant and as if I were shouting into an echo chamber. As I lamented this with a friend, they reassured me and provided inspirational context, lifting my spirits. What sealed the deal was a brief message from someone in my PLN, expressing gratitude and support for a recent podcast episode. This reminded me that just as I need thought partners, others rely on me to be theirs. Thought partnership is a mutual exchange of ideas, rapport, and support.

It was a timely reminder to continue writing and podcasting and an essential signpost for my “why” as a leader and principal. While it’s wonderful to connect with kindred voices in the PLN, it’s equally important to remember the impact we can have on others.

Three Actionable Ideas for Principals to Connect with Thought Partners:

1. Cultivate a Leadership Team within Your School: Identify and nurture a group of trusted colleagues who can serve as your sounding board and thought partners. This team can help you navigate challenges, brainstorm solutions, and maintain a sense of camaraderie within the building.
2. Engage with Professional Communities: Actively participate in communities like ASCD and ISTE. These organizations offer a wealth of resources and opportunities to connect with other leaders. Engaging in these spaces allows you to find thought partners beyond your district and stay current on best practices in education.
3. Leverage Your PLN: Make it a habit to connect with your PLN regularly. Whether through social media, virtual meetups, or collaborative projects, your PLN can be a source of inspiration, support, and fresh ideas. Don’t hesitate to reach out to others in your network when you need advice or want to share a breakthrough.

The Power of Thought Partners and Belonging

Every principal needs a thought partner. It’s not just a nice-to-have; it’s essential for thriving in our roles. The gig doesn’t have to be lonely when we intentionally seek out those connections that can uplift us, challenge us, and remind us why we do what we do. Cultivating a sense of belonging within our profession isn’t just about finding camaraderie; it’s about fortifying our leadership purpose and ensuring that we’re equipped to lead with clarity and passion.

It’s equally important to recognize the value of thought partners within our own buildings. Seek out those colleagues who, like you, are the only ones with their title in the schoolhouse. Whether it’s the school librarian, counselor, or instructional coach, these individuals can become invaluable allies in your leadership journey. Forge those connections, share your vision, and collaborate intentionally. Together, you can create a network of support that strengthens not only your leadership but also the culture of your school.

Remember, the best leaders are those who know how to connect, collaborate, and create a community where everyone feels they belong. Embrace the opportunity to grow alongside your thought partners, and let that sense of belonging fuel your drive to make a positive impact every day.

Listen to the latest episode of #PrincipalLinerNotes featuring Andrea Trudeau here.