
Years ago, as a young enthusiast of music, I immersed myself in a biography of The Beach Boys. My love for music biographies runs deep; I cherish learning about the origins of my favorite albums. One chapter in that Beach Boys biography centered around an unreleased album meant to follow their stylistic shift “Pet Sounds” and the #1 hit single, “Good Vibrations.” Brian Wilson, the band’s leader and creative genius, was collaborating with lyricist Van Dyke Parks on an ambitious project that transcended the concept album format. Wilson envisioned it as a “teenage symphony to God,” an album poised to redefine music and tackle grand subjects such as the American Dream. My excitement turned to disappointment upon learning that Brian Wilson shelved the album, leaving only a few tracks scattered across various releases.
I was troubled by Wilson’s lack of confidence and drive to complete this masterpiece. Having heard some of these tracks, I was astounded by their beauty and poetic depth. These compositions were symphonic and grand, with luminaries like Leonard Bernstein recognizing their brilliance. Bernstein praised “Surf’s Up” as “poetic, beautiful even in its obscurity,” highlighting its complexity as emblematic of the innovative changes in pop music. I was astounded that someone like Brian Wilson who is musical genius could not complete his modern-day symphony.
Fortunately, after enduring years of personal struggles, Wilson eventually completed the album, which was warmly received and even earned a Grammy Award. The original tracks were later compiled into a Beach Boys album, also met with acclaim. Yet, I remain in awe of how such a work of pure beauty was almost lost to Wilson’s own version of Imposter Syndrome. Despite his success, Wilson didn’t feel worthy and doubted the album’s merit. His crisis of confidence nearly buried a quantum leap in musical artistry.
This reflection led me to think about leaders in various fields who face similar struggles with Imposter Syndrome. How many innovative ideas have been abandoned due to a lack of courage and the toxic effects of naysayers? I have faced my own bouts with this as a leader, letting confidence gaps stifle new ideas. A recent CNBC report revealed that 71% of CEOs admitted to battling Imposter Syndrome. The lost ideas and solutions, stunted by this struggle, resonate with Wilson’s shelved masterpiece.
According to the American Psychological Society, Imposter Syndrome is is the feeling of doubting your abilities and fearing being exposed as a fraud, even when you are competent and successful. It often involves attributing achievements to luck rather than skill. Imposter Syndrome is like a shadow that follows even the brightest stars, making them feel like they’re just pretending to shine. It’s that nagging doubt that, despite your achievements and hard work, you’re not truly deserving and might be exposed as a fraud at any moment.
Embracing Failure and Finding Strength
Recently, in deep reflection over the past year in my leadership role, I found myself fixated on my failures. Instead of extracting lessons from them, I wallowed in the losses, deeming myself a failure. These sharp feelings of self-doubt echoed the pangs of Imposter Syndrome, making past accolades feel hollow.
My wife, perceptive as ever, noticed my downward spiral and called me out. She challenged me to inventory my achievements, no matter how small. At her urging, I listed every instance where I served, supported, and made an impact. The exercise was revelatory, shifting my focus from despair to empowerment. This shift in perspective led to an epiphany: I want to help others persevere through their own Imposter Syndrome. I am determined to be a thought partner and coach, empowering others to navigate their valleys of self-doubt.
Combatting Imposter Syndrome Through Coaching
In a recent leadership webinar with Daniel Pink and Stephen M.R. Covey, an epiphany struck me. Hearing these thought leaders together—akin to Hendrix and Clapton sharing a stage—discuss their works, I found revelation. Stephen M.R. Covey has authored many pivotal books on leadership and his recent one, Trust and Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash Greatness in Others is a game-changer on shifting the paradigm on leadership. Daniel Pink has also authored many though-provoking and his most recent tome, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward is quite compelling. Daniel Pink in the webinar stated that to be a “Trust and Inspire” leader with “Drive,” one must “nurture, guide, and coach” themselves and others. This insight underscored the importance of intentional support and coaching in overcoming self-doubt. There were so many insightful takeaways by both Stephen M.R. Covey and Daneil Pink in their webinar. I am grateful for the reflection, learning, and growth they both inspired.
Leaders need to foster a culture of coaching, where everyone feels a sense of belonging and receives nurturing guidance. In turn, leaders must foster this same culture within themselves to preserve their well-being and leadership core. Creating this intentional space fosters productivity, creativity, collaboration, and innovation. A coaching culture can deflate the potency of Imposter Syndrome, ensuring that potential masterpieces aren’t lost like Brian Wilson’s initial vision for “Smile.”
Creating a Culture of Empowered Coaching
To cultivate this culture, consider these three moves:
- Model Coaching for Ourselves: Create a daily inventory of positive impact. Daniel Pink suggests listing three ways we made daily progress in any endeavor. This practice reinforces self-worth and achievement. (Another takeaway from the Covey-Pink Webinar!)
- Seek Thought Partners: Share ideas and seek support from trusted colleagues. Thought partners can provide invaluable perspective and encouragement.
- Strengths-Based Inventory: Collaborate with your team to identify strengths and invite members to coach others in those areas. This differentiated support fosters a collaborative and empowered community.
As leaders, it’s crucial to give ourselves grace and recognize our accomplishments. By structuring space for coaching and seeking thought partners, we can empower ourselves and our organizations to overcome Imposter Syndrome. In doing so, we ensure that our collective potential is realized, and no masterpiece is left abandoned.
Embrace the journey, nurture your ideas, and empower others to do the same. Together, we can create a symphony of success.
Check out “Surf’s Up” by The Beach Boys to get a sense of the sheer symphonic beauty intended for the “Smile” album: