A Rare Time When I Turned Off A Beatles Song
There are sure signs of summer on the horizon. Summer resonates differently for many. For some, signs of summer lie within beach towels, vacation plans, and hurried trips to the bookstore for beach reads. For me, it’s always within the guise of music. Certain songs stand as emblems for the promise of a new season. “Blue Sky” by The Allman Brothers Band or the aptly named “Summer” by War serve as anthems for a season that brings extended time with family, road trips, and visits to the ice cream stand.
But for this unabashed Beatles fan, the true sign of summer is the “All Together Now: Top 100 Beatles Song Countdown” on Sirius XM’s The Beatles Channel. This annual broadcast event airs over Memorial Day weekend, playing nonstop, and I, of course, listen to it nonstop. I love engaging in internal debates—sometimes audible—with the song rankings. It’s a common practice and serves as my entry point into summer.
The other day, my wife and I were driving home. The Beatles Channel was playing in the background, and I was rambling on about some arcane Beatles fact, something my wife has heard probably a billion times. As I continued my Beatle bravado, “She’s Leaving Home” came on. This poignant song about a teenage runaway, beautifully sung by Paul McCartney with harmony from John Lennon, is backed by a harp and string ensemble. It’s a classic track from the “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band” album, significant on so many levels. I even wrote a book about it.
As soon as I heard the opening notes, I promptly turned the song off.
Deb turned to me and asked why I had turned off a Beatles song. I replied, “New meaning to this song for us.” Deb immediately understood, and we both remembered the mix of joy and dread facing us.
Our daughter is heading to Spain for a college internship. She leaves in a few days. I’m turning to writing for some therapeutic reflection as I come to terms with my baby leaving the nest. I keep rationalizing—she’s smart, she’s about to turn 21, I’ve been through this with our oldest daughter living in Spain—she’s ready to conquer the world. Yet, I keep returning to memories of holding her as a baby, singing “Across the Universe” to lull her to sleep. She’s my baby, and I’m a hopeless Papa Bear.
I sadly recall the times I missed moments during her childhood. As a principal, I sometimes placed school duties before family. This particular daughter would lovingly admonish me not to read school books at home and encourage me to read fun books. It’s hard not to regret those lost moments with all three of my daughters. It’s even harder not to envision walking away from my dear daughter at the airport. But if, as a leader, you keep your family as the core priority, it’s a beautiful day. There will be moments when duty pulls at you, but those moments can never supersede precious time with loved ones. Defaulting to love, family, and care protects your well-being and ensures you can never go wrong.
I am thrilled my daughter is embarking on a new adventure in a new world. She’s excited about Spain, and I couldn’t be prouder. Though we will be separated by an ocean, I look forward to floating through the ocean of memories I have with her and to the continued moments we will share together.
Steps to Prioritize Family Time
As leaders, it’s easy to become consumed by our responsibilities. However, it’s crucial to remember that our families are our core support system. Here are some actionable steps to ensure you prioritize family time:
- Schedule Family Time: Just as you schedule meetings and work commitments, schedule regular family time. Block out evenings or weekends to spend with your loved ones.
- Be Present: When you’re with your family, be fully present. Put away your phone, close your laptop, and focus on the moment.
- Create Traditions: Establish family traditions, whether it’s a weekly movie night, a monthly outing, or an annual vacation. These traditions create lasting memories.
- Involve Your Family: Share your work challenges and successes with your family. This inclusion helps them understand your responsibilities and allows them to celebrate your achievements with you.
- Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to work demands that encroach on family time. Setting clear boundaries helps maintain a healthy work-life balance.
By taking these steps, you can ensure that your role as a leader does not come at the expense of your family. Prioritizing family time fosters stronger relationships and enhances your overall well-being, making you a better leader both at work and at home.
Leadership Liner Notes: Sean Gaillard 